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May 8

Pep Talk Tuesday {Trusting Your Vendors}

I did a wedding once where five minutes before the bride was set to walk down the aisle, all of a sudden she had a hundred questions for me. Did the groomsmen know when they were supposed to walk? Would the musician know when to start the processional? Did her veil look OK? Before I could even answer any of my sweet bride’s questions, the bride’s Dad kindly told her to be quiet. And to ‘Just let Rhi do exactly what you hired to do,’ because my bride may have not known at that point but the groomsmen were already all in place, the DJ was going to be looking out for my cue to start the processional and her veil, which her mother wore on her wedding day ironically at that same venue many years before, looked perfect. Not that that really mattered at that moment. But what did matter is I was there to meet my client’s expectations by ensuring I was doing my job. By ensuring that everyone absolutely trusted me and my abilities to do exactly what I had promised to them.

I was chatting with a photographer colleague of mine the other day and we touched on the topic of trusting your wedding vendors on the big day. I couldn’t believe that some brides still send double paged shot lists to someone whose been shooting for almost a decade and has been published dozen of times. It’s beyond me that you’d pay big bucks to work with a professional that you’re obviously interested in, only to slightly doubt their capabilities. I’m not saying my bride mentioned above didn’t trust me in the above situation because I know she did. But sometimes, like when I come up with a really cool and I mean cool as ice idea and present it to a client only to have them say “I don’t know if that’ll look good,” I want to fly a pink jet over their home, with a banner trailing behind amongst the clouds, that reads “Just trust! This idea is going to be so badass!”

If you’re the type of bride, groom, mother of the bride or father of the groom that feels the slightest bit apprehensive about hiring a particular professional, it’s best to investigate your fears. Meeting said vendor in person before signing a contract can help ease your fears. Sometimes speaking to said vendor’s past clients about your questionss may help clear up any doubts you have. And sometimes just letting go and trusting that you picked the perfect candidate for the job can be the best bet to ensure a worry-free wedding day. You shouldn’t have to feel the need to remind your photographer to snap a photo of you and your sister together. Most photographer’s will instinctively snap this shot. And you shouldn’t be worried about how your veil looks ten seconds before you start the biggest walk of your life. Because I’ll make sure it looks just perfect on that head of yours.

See? Such determination I have. It’s a serious world of veils out there, friends!

Photo from the amazing as always Julie Harmsen. Miss you, Jules :) xoxo

10 thoughts on “Pep Talk Tuesday {Trusting Your Vendors}”

  1. Katherine says:

    Well said, Rhi! :)

  2. jill says:

    AMEN, rhi. amen :)

  3. Alexandra says:

    So well said, Rhi. And I love when you post photos of you “doin’ your thang” ;) It makes me smile because I know you are so good at what you do and that you love every single second of it. xoxoxo

  4. KJ and Co. says:

    Very well said. Thanks for sharing.

  5. Well said! When my brides put all their trust in me, I can feel it — and in the end, the final product goes to a completely different level of awesome.

  6. Kristin says:

    I SO wish I had listened to my gut when it came to one particular vendor. I paid for not listening big time. Great advice!

  7. Fabulous post ! I couldn’t agree more … it’s very hard though as a bride though to trust i guess it is a big big day for her …. but i can only imagine how difficult it must be for you … hun could you write a post about how you made it as a planner and how you got started as i am really interested :) xxx

  8. Lena says:

    Painful for a girl with control issues to hear, but you are so, so right!

  9. Shana says:

    If I had you as a planner, I would trust you 110% :) That being said I did have tremendous trust in my photographer on our wedding day. He came with glowing reviews, has been published in large amounts, the whole nine yards. I trusted him to get the candid moments that I love but also get those few important family type pictures that I wanted ( and talked to him about). I didn’t make a must take list for him and boy do I ever wish I did. I have no decent pictures of my flower girls, no pictures with my family that are any good and not a single picture of me and my husband actually looking at the camera. As much as I love a good kiss shot, I would love some that other people could enjoy too, mainly my mom who doesn’t have any good shots of me in my wedding dress where I am not on the move, talking, eating etc. So as much as I agree you have to trust that your vendors have your interests at heart, I got burned big time and would rather be controlling and overboard and get what I wanted in the end.

    If I could go back and do it again, I would hire you to keep an eye on him and make sure he did what he should have done! :)

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