Pep Talk Tuesdays Archive

Pep Talk Tuesday {Today’s Potential for Happiness}

Do you ever dream so big your head – or heart – could burst? Or better yet, do you ever feel heavy with overwhelm?

RhiAtTrouvaille

I’ve been on the verge of bursting lately. And today I woke up feeling a bit tired, not physically, but mentally because the hopes and the dreams inside this head of mine feel too big some days. It’s not a bad thing per say but it’s a little bit overwhelming when you have a hard time turning the brain off and being ok with just being in the now. I read something the other day about our purpose in life and how our purpose is really to just be in the moment, living the now, doing what’s in front of us. In theory this is simple and doable if you break the now (whatever that is for you) down into tangible steps. Think about that for a second; it’s simple!) But here we are (and I generalize when I say ‘we’) rushing around, panicked, stressed, sad even, trying to get to the next best thing, trying to out do ourselves, and trying not to feel like a disaster when the next best thing or the next level really, falls short of our grasp and worse our expectations. Raise your hand if this cycle feels real. I’m over here with both hands high up in the air mind you.

I took this past weekend off. Three days off. No work. No emails. No phone calls. No ‘let me sneak upstairs for an hour of work!’ or ‘let’s swing by Hobby Lobby for a few work related items.’ This hasn’t happened since probably last year. That was a hard pillow to swallow when I was able to realize how badly I needed a break. That the gift of time for myself isn’t something I’m able to give to myself. Those three days were full of the things my heart needed. Plain and simple rest and relaxation doing this things I love most with the people I love most. I’m fairly certain that in 10 or 20 or even 50 years, I’ll love back on these things, these days of rest filled with joy, and feel like it was worth my time to indulge instead of scurrying to achieve anything beyond myself and my capabilities. So today:

Be easy on yourself. You’re doing the best you can. That’s all you can do.

Take five minutes. Really. Go take 5 minutes. And do something for you.

Write down two things that you’ve done well recently. Write them here.

And remember tomorrow will come; but today is full of potential for happiness.

Go seize the day, friends! Xoxo

P.S. Trouvaille tickets are on sale at the early bird rate for four more days! Eeeek!

Pep Talk Tuesday {Ignore the Rest}

So a friend sent me this article the other day. After a frazzled phone call from yours truly of course.

Mind blown. Life changed.

I’m not sure about you, but I often place too much value on other’s opinions concerning my decisions and actions. I feel validated when a friend tells me something is a good idea, or something looks good, because, hey! That must mean I’m doing something good. Which directly correlates with feeling validated because we all want to be seen as successful, talented people full of goodness. Our peers are so often huge players in our mindset of how we do things in this life, how we view the world and one another, and ultimately, the biggie here, how we feel about ourselves (oh and I’m sure this is a given to most of you who have been reading here for a while but I’m not a psychologist in any capacity).

Well, for me it’s gotta stop like yesterday. The above linked article really illustrated that for me. I’ve blogged about following your gut and listening to your intuition. As human beings with an infinite amount of feelings and thoughts, and the obvious fact that we are technically with ourselves every second of my existence, we know ourselves the BEST. We know what we want most days, we know what we like, we know what makes us comfortable, uncomfortable, happy, angry, we know when we don’t feel good or when something feels off, and we know when we’re due for a change, small or big. Advice from friends is one thing but weighing too heavily on their opinions is another.

So why do we question taking action? Why do we have the mindset that a friend or acquaintance’s opinion is the best for us when we usually already know it is? And maybe this is just how I feel sometimes, but how come we feel disappointment when we ask a friend for their opinion, with the understanding that we ourselves already like the prospect of whatever item we’re requesting feedback on, and they fire back with unfavourable responses? Maybe we’ve lost of sense of trusting our guts. Maybe we think our friends are smarter or more experienced. Maybe we need an article like the one above to knock some serious sense into ourselves.

Or maybe we just need to act and ignore the rest.

HeyGorgeousBlooms

Ignore the rest today. Do something remarkable. And know you’ve got this.

Photo by the incredible Rylee Hitcher of a HGE floral creation. Xoxo