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Mar 14

My Story Part III

Over the summer mentioned in Part II I had to decide what to do next. After only three months in Chicago with Andrew who was my fiance at this point, and unable to find a job in my field, I found myself back in my parent’s basement. I hadn’t been there since high school and had to get used to a new lifestyle and routine. Frustrated, lonely and feeling like I had taken five steps backwards, I needed to focus on moving forward instead. For a few weeks my Dad and I sat on the couch in the basement and together we drafted up a preliminary business plan for my bakery. Seriously though. Guys, I wanted to open a sweet little bakery and make delicious and gorgeous cupcakes and cakes for weddings and events. We ran numbers, checked out potential locations, I started branding myself through my blog and then I realized, crap I have a fiance 14 hours away waiting for me to come back sometime soon. Making an investment like opening a bakery seemed like a sure fire way to distance myself even further from ending up with Andrew so I decided to head back to school. Talk about two complete opposite directions right? But I just felt like I owed it to myself to give the journalism thing one more go, especially after four and a half years of school and at this point, around five internships.

I applied to a technology college 20 minutes from my parents house, starting coaching recreational gymnastics again (at the same place I worked at in high school five years prior) and felt inspired and hopeful that this would be the way to finally get what I was after; except looking back now I wasn’t even sure I knew what that it really was. I bought a few back to school clothes (well I bought a new pair of flats if that counts), a new back pack and found out on the first day of school that the fast track new media program I enrolled in required a Mac Book laptop. Oy. Looks like the laptop that had gotten me through college wasn’t going to cut it anymore. And neither was my long hair which proceeded to make me look much younger than I already looked (no good for someone who was hoping to land a reputable on air reporting gig). By October I had chopped 13 inches off of my hair (I cried). And I was hardly getting used to only being able to chat with Andrew every night on the phone (I cried much more getting used to the reality of our relationship).

Guys, I was a miserable you know what here. I would have never admitted this to anyone but Andrew during it all but I was just angry at anyone I could blame. Everyone around me seemed to have more good in their lives. Friends who had just gotten engaged were living with their fiances, planning their weddings, going to their 9 to 5’s and having fun on the weekends. I was after more than a year of being engaged wondering if I’d ever be a bride, barely getting to talk on the phone with my fiance, going to my classes 9 to 9 so I could head to my part time job on the weekend. I felt cheated out of the plan I had envisioned for so long. I started to even get envious of Andrew who had seemingly desirable things happening over in his world like bills, the freedom to do whatever he wanted in the apartment and the silly list goes on.

There was one point over my year at school in the spring semester where I think Andrew and I hit our lowest point as a couple. We went nearly three months without seeing one another, school got incredibly busy for me, work got busy for him and we just sort of stopped trying when it came to our relationship. Thankfully we regrouped, carried on, spring came to Chicago, I graduated with honors from my program, won the Best Reporter award, landed a dream internship at a magazine in the heart of Toronto and spent that summer working my tail off between an unpaid internship and a part time job that barely paid for the expenses of our upcoming fall wedding. I was tired tired tired. Did I mention I was tired? The only light I could see at the end of the tunnel was our wedding and finally getting to marry Andrew.

Our wedding day came on September 24th, 2010. It rained twenty minutes before our ceremony. And stopped 10 minutes after. I wrote a lot about planning here on this blog. And had so many of you cheering us on. Your love was felt! And appreciated. You can see more of our wedding here. Our wedding day was mad chaos, to put it lightly. I took on so much myself. After helping plan friend’s weddings and my sister in law’s wedding prior to my own, plus years of experience in heading events and organizations in college I knew I could pull off an amazing party. But I was too stubborn to let anyone else help execute things on the day of. Hey you live and learn right? Let’s just say my own experiences as a hard headed bride are absolutely a benefit to the clients that hire me as their planner and designer.

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Andrew and I set off to the Bahamas for a heavenly five day honeymoon on September 26th. And I thought everything would finally fall into place. Everyday we’d head down to the beach to relax and in between some serious sea shell hunting, I’d open my notebook and sprawl out new business plans and packages and ideas and pricing and the list goes on. I finally knew what I had to do and it was learn to be in charge of my life and my decisions. That always sounds easier than it is though right? More coming next in Part IV! Photo above taken by Amanda Wilcher.

You can read Part I here.
You can read Part II here.
You can read Part IV here.

This was written in March of 2013.

Mar 12

Pep Talk Tuesday {Waiting}

If we wait until we’re ready, we’ll be waiting for the rest of our lives.

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I went through and cleaned up my Pinterest boards a little over the weekend. I came across the above quote that I had pinned months ago and it really hit a nerve with me. I’ve taken so many risks in business and life over the past year and as a result really feel like I’m starting to settle into a sense of being and a lifestyle that feels good on the inside. But here’s the catch. My life, while wonderful is so so far from perfect. There’s things I’m working on consistently, things that I get worked up over, bad habits I could afford to break, good habits I could stand to keep, and the list goes on. Living with purpose and meaning takes work, and making decisions to get to where we want to be is uncomfortable.

But that’s exactly what makes the above so lovely, right? That little quote taunts us a little and makes us wonder if we’re really wasting time just waiting for that perfect moment to do whatever it is we want to do. For me, at one point, it was starting my business (thankfully I didn’t dwell on this for too long). Then at another point it was choosing to rebrand my business. Then shortly there after it was adding floral deisgn to my offerings. That move took a lot of guts to make for a lot of reasons. For some of you maybe it’s getting to the gym to lose the weight you gained during your pregnancy. Maybe it’s going back to school to get your masters. Or maybe it’s something as simple as cleaning out the garage in anticipation of spring. We all have things we put off or hold back from because we don’t feel ready.

So get ready. And do it. Read this post here too. Around this time last year I took a blogging, social media and all around life break because I wasn’t ready to live the life I wanted. For a good two weeks I cried big girl tears and felt sorry for myself every single day. Poor Andrew probably dreaded coming home to my misery. I felt like I had to make decisions based on how they would make others feel and I absolutely felt the negative effects of thinking this way. Fixing this mind set wasn’t an overnight fix but where I am now 365 days later is truly and absolutely 110% an amazing blessing.

Go on with yo badselves today, blogettes. You’re ready! xoxo

Mar 8

Instalove Friday

Hello Friday! Sunshine-and-productivity-filled Friday.

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I’m just about to step out of the office until Monday here and I’m so excited to shut it all down for the weekend! Kelly and I are going location hunting for an exciting upcoming project this afternoon and it’s a super sunny spring day here in Michigan. On a Friday. With the potential of a Starbucks in hand. Nothing makes me more excited than that kind of combination! I’ve been working long days and long hours the past few weeks designing boutonniere mocks up, building ceiling instals and securing awesome vendors for my sweet clients; I finally feel like I’ve made headway with the big piles of to-dos around here. So while I’m off disconnecting and spring cleaning around the Bosse home here, I hope you’ll take some time to do the same for yourself! See you back on Monday, blogettes xoxo

Mar 7

The HGE Relaunch Party Details!

I feel so grateful, guys. And lucky. In December I hosted a party here in our home to celebrate the relaunch of Hey Gorgeous Events. About 40 industry and non-industry friends came out to enjoy appetizers and drink mimosas with me and it was the perfect way to end nearly a year’s work of rebranding and preparing for the unveiling. My sweet friend and colleague Leah Mullet came over a little earlier that Monday night to snap some shots of the party details for me, and I’m so happy she was here. She chatted with me while I curled my hair, zipped me up into my dress and even gifted me with the sweetest present ever before things got started; a lovely card and a giant Henri Bendel peony candle I had been lusting after. After deciding at MTH in October that my ideal day started with a lit candle in my office, she decided to get me the biggest size possible. It’s March and already I’ve burned through that entire thing. Oops!

My sweet neighbors, Tara and Joey, kind mother in law, Pat, and handsome hubby were on hand to that night to help with setting up, serving, coat-getting and cleaning. And all of you were there and here to leave the kindest comments via Instagram, twitter, facebook, snail mail and even Ustream where I streamed parts of the party live. I went to bed that night like a little kid on Christmas morning. My heart nearly exploded with contentment and joy. Enjoy some of the party detail shots below! And check out #hgelaunch on instagram to see some photos of the amazing people that made it out that night! I told Leah not to worry about guest shots so she too could mingle and have fun with everyone.

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This is me before the party started. I’d like to get those giant balloons permanently blown up in my home.

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We all know I have an unhealthy addiction to Starbucks so I thought it would be fitting to have a take home swag ‘cup’ for each guest. They were filled with delicious treats from Nicole at The Caramel Jar, custom HGE pencils, some amazing new branded buttons from Ashli at Big Yellow Dog Designs and handmade peony soap as a nod to one of my favorite blooms. I hand wrote gold ink messages on the side of the cup, like they do at Starbucks when you order a drink and displayed the cups on my mint dresser in the entryway to our home. This was one of my fave details!

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In the kitchen we had a fruit mimosa bar and pop, beer and water. Our unfurnished and undecorated front room actually came in handy that day and served as the perfect empty space to set up a little bistro type area for guests who wanted to sit down. Funny enough most people hung out in the kitchen and dining room during the beginning of the night and the bistro area looked lonely. But come 11:00 pm (I thought people would leave by 9:00 at the latest!) there were about 15 of us sitting in the ‘bistro’ area eating Sweet Heather Anne treats and laughing together by candlelight.

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I ordered all of the appetizers through The Gilmore Collection. A 2011 bride of mine used them for her wedding food (they are amazing!) and they own close to 15 restaurants in the city here; I couldn’t imagine ordering food through anyone else! They were a pleasure to work with and we’re so helpful in coming out, delivering and setting up the food.

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As a memento to the entire rebrand experience I had a shot from a shoot I designed and Cyn Kain photographed blown up and make into a canvas. I asked every guest to sign it with a note of encouragement and it now hangs proudly in my office. My favorite part was when Molly Jacques signed her name in calligraphy (with a Sharpie mind you) on the canvas. Molly created my logo and it was like coming full circle to have her art work on that canvas too.

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The desserts were made by Sweet Heather Anne and she’s one of my faves in Michigan for delicious treats. Lucky (or unluckily depending on how you see it) we had a ton of leftovers after the party and Andrew and I ate peppermint dark chocolate cake truffles for breakfast all the way up to Christmas. I’m not even kidding. The treats were a hit and loved by all! Thankfully our IKEA console table and my cake stand collection served as the perfect way to display them all!

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And last but not least here I am putting on our bluetooth speaker system for some tunes just before the party started. It was about 6:29 pm here and no one had showed up yet. I honestly thought no one would come! And poor Leah and Andrew had to keep telling me to calm down. Like clockwork, the first guest rang the door bell at about 6:34. I think Rihanna had come on at this point so I Was singing my heart out. Who knows, all I know is I was and am very happy.

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Happy Thursday, blogettes. xoxo

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Photography: Leah Mullet Photography / Desserts: Sweet Heather Anne / Dress: Rent the Runway / Catering: The Gilmore Collection / Flowers: Hey Gorgeous Events / Table Rental: Baker Rental / Linens: BBJ / Favor buttons: Big Yellow Dog Designs / Caramels: The Caramel Jar / White console table: IKEA / Mint dresser and blue bar cart: Vintage / Black chairs: Events by I Candy

Feb 26

The Threat of Theft

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Oh my GOSH. Last week guys? Oy!

If you follow me over on Instagram you’ll know it was brought to my attention last week that I fell victim to a terrible instance of brand theft and logo infringement. A woman in Cape Town, South Africa stole my logo claiming to have designed it herself (she did remove the hummingbird and word ‘Events’) and decided the Hey Gorgeous brand name was awesome enough to become her business name too. She launched her business exactly one month after the new Hey Gorgeous Events went live in December and the worst of all, has been using my logo on her labels and packaging. I was absolutely devastated to see everything in front of my own eyes and a bit shocked that people like this even exist.

“The threat of theft is the cost of business.” I read this on Unfettered Ink last year and immediately saved it to my desktop. I’m very honest, transparent, giving and kind both in business and life, and owe a lot of my success to that. But then there’s days like last Thursday where I feel like it’s easier to have your identity, photos, work, ideas, logo and even your business name stolen from you when you put your heart out into the open. So maybe I should scale back on my blog posts to prevent more instances like this. Design less editorials. Talk less about going after my dreams. Or get rid of the authentic and beautiful brand I’ve worked so hard to build. It’s easy to settle when we feel defeated right?

Here’s what I think though. Now that I’ve had a bit of time to calm my heart and think clearly.

Instances like mine from last week fuel you up and motivate you to be that much better. They drive you to protect yourself and your ideas more intently. They bring to light how incredible friends, family, clients and acquaintances are when they do the right thing to support you and stand together in a fight for what’s right and what’s fair. And best of all days like last Thursday teach you about grace and holding your head high when you feel like you’ve been punched in the gut. I’ve also learned that you can be the nicest, sweetest, hardest-working, most talented, quirkiest, funniest or established individual the wedding industry, or any industry for that matter, has ever seen and someone is still always going to have a problem with you, find someway to bring you down, and take what yours. Don’t let them.

My dear friend and colleague, Courtney Dellafiora, recommended an amazing book to me last week in the midst of all this craziness. As someone who has experienced her own share of copy cats and thieves, she told me that the best way to make it impossible for people to copy you is to implement so much of YOURSELF into your brand that there’s no logical way anyone could get away with stealing. And I’ve always believed so fully that my brand is what it is because it’s so personal. So I’m going to keep sharing, and keep being me because I sure don’t know any other way. I hope all of YOU will tweet this post and facebook it and pin it and email it and share these words so that artists, creative types, business owners and authentic, good, true and honest people can thrive and succeed just like they are meant to.

So whose with me?

Photo above by Leah Mullet. Complete with MY logo on MY tote bags for clients :) Isn’t it pretty?